“Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do.” Goethe
What I find is that in therapy my clients come into therapy with many strengths and skills already. These are creative, unique, wonderful skills. As a therapist, my job is to help build on those skills, highlight them, and help make them more efficient and effective. When we address skills in session, clients usually say “oh yeah, I have done that before and it does help.” Often the difficulty is in remembering what has worked in the past, using the appropriate skills at the appropriate time, and not letting our emotions get the best of us in the moment.
I tell my clients that the therapy does not happen in the office, but in what happens outside of the office; where they put to use the things we have been working on in therapy and practice the techniques learned. Willing something different to happen is not going to get any results, but being active and doing something different will get results. I fully understand that this is often easier said than done and we won’t know until we try. I am not capable of making changes for my clients that is up to them, I can simply help guide and support.
If you ever find yourself having trouble with applying your skills or having a hard time getting started, our group classes are a great way to get that support, information, and confidence to apply the skills in your life.